Tonight I went out on a double date with another couple. My friend and I had never met the men we went out with. We had dinner together. It was a little awkward because my friend’s date didn’t talk to her very much. So my date, being a gentleman, involved her in the discussion. At the end of dinner the check arrived. Her date didn’t even look at it. My date hesitated a bit and then took the check and paid. So he got the entire bill for the 4 of us. I instantly lost respect for the other man.

My friend and I came up with a solution. Next time we go on a double date we’ll tell the waiter in advance the situation and ask him to split the bill four ways. If the men are gentleman they’ll cover our dinner. If they’re not everyone can pay for themselves. This way there isn’t one large bill for the table and no chance of one person getting left with it.

In the car I apologized and offered to help pay. My date wouldn’t accept anything. Plus he was gracious about it. And he’s hot. And he asked if he could take me out again. I said yes.

Wait, did I just write that title?

I go in spurts with dating - attracting blocks of men who share similiar characteristics. For a while it was computer nerd types, so just about everyone I dated was employed as a computer programmer. Then I started getting men with mustaches. That is no joke, and I didn’t find it that amusing, even though one of them was persuaded to shave his, which improved his looks quite a bit.

Note to men: if you want to be kissed I suggest you lose the mustache. I guess I’m getting old enough that this must be addressed. Women out there, is this something you’ve faced?

Lately though there’s a new trend starting. I’m not attracting programmers or entrepreneurs, no. The overall feel is men who value their spirituality. Men with solid testimonies. Single dads (through divorce or being widowed). This is good news though funny enough they (so far) tend to fall within a certain look which I wouldn’t say was my preference. This leads me to ask can I get spirituality and attraction in one person? I believe it’s possible.

My son has been prodding me to hurry up and get remarried. He’s in first grade and so he has no clue how much work that is. I mean, this is for ETERNITY. Talk about anxiety over a decision. He knows full well how things go when eternity doesn’t last forever and I for one never ever ever want to put him or me through that again. These things are not for rushing though.

Seeing as how I just turned 36 I noticed a new phenomenon that really bugs. As a seasoned online dater I’m used to getting men older than me flirting and ignoring their flirts. However, men of all ages cut off their search for women at age 35. Therefore, I have dropped off many searches. The number of responses to my online profile has dropped to almost nothing. It’s sad I know.

So my answer is to start meeting people in real life. Strange, I know. I’m going to go to dances and such. I’ll tell you that a lot of quality women don’t go to activities because at the ripe age of 36, we have a child or two to take care of. Often young children and that means getting a babysitter or showing up to things every other weekend at the most.

I know I’m rambling but that is what this blog is for - my musings. Enjoy and happy dating.