Comments on: Too Much Too Soon http://www.utahsinglesblog.com/2007/07/too-much-too-soon/ Raising the Bar on Dating in these Latter Days Wed, 08 Feb 2012 08:51:40 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: azide http://www.utahsinglesblog.com/2007/07/too-much-too-soon/comment-page-1/#comment-239 azide Tue, 21 Aug 2007 10:13:30 +0000 http://www.utahsinglesblog.com/too-much-too-soon/#comment-239 I have seen the mystery method. I know there is some truth to it. Everyone can always get better. Honestly though, women are all different, one technique or application won't work for all women. If your struggling to get good at something, imagine how many dates you would need to go on to get just one thing down to were a woman would see it as being natural not fake and not trying too hard! Honestly, If I was that good, and I had a certain amount of success with women...it could have the potential to alter my behavior with women. Just like women who get a lot of attention from guys.. Anyways Its still hit and miss. As long as your being yourself thats great. I found myself being different than who I am. In exploring things like the mystery method the tough part might be incorporating LDS values which many of the pick up artists are without. I have found a few minor things and matured through the process. I don't know if it has really made any difference or not. Food for thought...what would a relationship be without any growth? Its good to be learned of man, but at what point would it be better off studying the same amount of time in the gospel? I think its great to be aware of things that women are attracted to, but its not just the guy who may need to change. Maybe if women worked as hard as guys do internally they would feel better about themselves physically and attract more potential mystery disciples. I have seen the mystery method. I know there is some truth to it. Everyone can always get better. Honestly though, women are all different, one technique or application won’t work for all women. If your struggling to get good at something, imagine how many dates you would need to go on to get just one thing down to were a woman would see it as being natural not fake and not trying too hard! Honestly, If I was that good, and I had a certain amount of success with women…it could have the potential to alter my behavior with women. Just like women who get a lot of attention from guys..
Anyways Its still hit and miss. As long as your being yourself thats great. I found myself being different than who I am. In exploring things like the mystery method the tough part might be incorporating LDS values which many of the pick up artists are without. I have found a few minor things and matured through the process. I don’t know if it has really made any difference or not. Food for thought…what would a relationship be without any growth? Its good to be learned of man, but at what point would it be better off studying the same amount of time in the gospel?
I think its great to be aware of things that women are attracted to, but its not just the guy who may need to change. Maybe if women worked as hard as guys do internally they would feel better about themselves physically and attract more potential mystery disciples.

]]> By: disillusion http://www.utahsinglesblog.com/2007/07/too-much-too-soon/comment-page-1/#comment-212 disillusion Mon, 02 Jul 2007 20:11:40 +0000 http://www.utahsinglesblog.com/too-much-too-soon/#comment-212 Mmmm--then I must break all the rules. Like, I just made a very large purchase, and I don't think it took 7 "touches", it took me 2 times looking, 1 time driving, and then 3 hours negotiating. But, I'd made the decision basically after look number 2, as long as the negotiations turned out. Timing is everything in dating--and it's what causes me the biggest headaches. I've spent my whole life "waiting" for a guy, and then, if we ever even get close to anything--I realize that I'd made my decision after the 2nd try (basically). I mean--you're right about "being patient"--but sometimes I think we're way TOO patient (or, dare I say, afraid). I mean, I really feel at this point in my life, that if I'm going to commit to a guy, he's gotta commit to me, quickly and without fear. I've seen guys do this with numerous of my older, single friends--and seen my friends basically do the same thing. But, for me, the waiting around, sitting on my hands, biding my time, for the sake of "timing", has often turned into a waste of my time. So, I don't know what the answer is. But, I do know that dating for me can't be a "dance"--cause I like to dance by myself, or with a large group (as in, a performing group), and not with a partner. Kinda makes that kind of dating a little bit of a problem. Mmmm–then I must break all the rules. Like, I just made a very large purchase, and I don’t think it took 7 “touches”, it took me 2 times looking, 1 time driving, and then 3 hours negotiating. But, I’d made the decision basically after look number 2, as long as the negotiations turned out.

Timing is everything in dating–and it’s what causes me the biggest headaches. I’ve spent my whole life “waiting” for a guy, and then, if we ever even get close to anything–I realize that I’d made my decision after the 2nd try (basically). I mean–you’re right about “being patient”–but sometimes I think we’re way TOO patient (or, dare I say, afraid). I mean, I really feel at this point in my life, that if I’m going to commit to a guy, he’s gotta commit to me, quickly and without fear. I’ve seen guys do this with numerous of my older, single friends–and seen my friends basically do the same thing. But, for me, the waiting around, sitting on my hands, biding my time, for the sake of “timing”, has often turned into a waste of my time.

So, I don’t know what the answer is. But, I do know that dating for me can’t be a “dance”–cause I like to dance by myself, or with a large group (as in, a performing group), and not with a partner. Kinda makes that kind of dating a little bit of a problem.

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