Today was one of the strangest first date fiascoes of my life. So a man has been writing me on and off for years. I happen to know that he sends the exact same email to several women. That was the first turn off. He lived in another state and moved here and I emailed him to say hi, welcome to Utah. At some point he decided he really wants to go out with me.

From this point he starts to text messages me sometimes 2 or 3 a day. I rarely respond. When I do I explain how I don’t know him so I don’t text message back and don’t really have the time to keep the conversations going. He writes very long emails and gets mad when I don’t reply to them. I don’t have time or interest in reading them. I don’t respond. That doesn’t work. Finally, I agree to one date. Maybe I’m wrong - sometimes you get an opinion of someone that is quite different than they are in real life. I’m fair and although I had lots of doubts I never felt like he is unsafe or other issues.

He talked about going out several days ago. I don’t hear from him for the last 2. Then today, the day we are supposed to go out things just start to go crazy. After all day of text messages, emails, and even phone calls we don’t have a set time or what we’re doing. I told him several times since he asked, I think he should plan the date.  Even if it’s just dinner at Wendy’s. I don’t really care as long as he plans it. It’s not as if I have high hopes already.

He asked me to drive half way - which presses his luck even further.  He says he can meet at 2pm. I was thinking 1-2 hours max.

The kicker he calls twice while I’m at work and leaves 2 messages. Then he texted me asking why I didn’t answer. I was in the middle of trying to resolve a stressful situation. Then I was in the bathroom. No matter to him though. He demands I answer him when he calls. So I call him about 15 mins later and he doesn’t answer.

How’s that for a lot of drama with someone I don’t even know? For something as simple as a first date.

Sometimes men who’ve never been married don’t seem to understand the life of a single parent. They live in an alternate reality. It’s one in which life revolves around them and it has for years. Life takes this slow pace and it’s all about them. I can’t relate to that.

I canceled the date. I hope not to hear back - ever.