LDS Online Dating Standards
I have had a bad string online lately. I’m on an LDS dating site. I guess I assume we share similar values but it’s not always so. The last few chats start out the same way. The guy starts to say how attractive I am and the conversation quickly moves towards wanting to meet me. And other things. Each time I’m thinking, they are not really going to go there are they?? But they do.
Is it because I’m a single mom and they think that I’m lonely or desperate? Or maybe they’ll just try anyone who is willing to talk with them? I know it’s not just men, women can be the same way. I expect it on Match.com or other dating sites. I expect it some on any site. I’m just not expecting it so frequently on an LDS site. Call me naive, but it’s disheartening.
Please don’t send me suggestive pictures. Please don’t suggest that you, a perfect stranger, come to my house late at night. It’s not attractive. It’s hollow and shallow. I know there are plenty of quality singles who live the gospel. In fact, I have dated some. But for the first time in years, I wonder if I should try to meet people in real life and step away from internet dating.
What kind of experiences have you had with online dating?
Yeah…I think they sites are good for keeping up with friends you already know and those who you haven’t seen in a while…other than that, I’d say that the internet has hurt dating in way. It seems to me that it’s easy for guys and girls both to be able to hide behind the profile they’ve created. I used the excuse for years that I was “just helping out” or staying in touch, on LDS sites…and I met a few great girls. However, nothing can compare to the old fashioned way of just going up to them in person and letting them know that you are interested and want to get to know them. As much as I hate to say it, your own single ward is the door to a lot of dating relationships…not that you have to date in the ward, but getting to know others of the opposite sex in your ward will lead to you being able to meet their freinds who aren’t in your ward….anywho, that’s my two cents.
Comment by Jed — April 29, 2007 @ 7:27 am
I have ran into the same experiences. Preistholders who begin talking about physical attraction and begin talking about Marital benefits on the 2nd date. Why is that. I feel our LDS men are still men but would have thought the respect level for the women would have held higher than standard.
Comment by Darlene — July 19, 2007 @ 9:08 pm