Having Courage to Tell the Truth
Tonight I did something difficult for me. Someone I’ve been out with twice asked me out again. He’s so kind to me and we have a good time together. However, the chemistry is just not there on a few important points (to me).
So rather than making excuses, ignoring him, or other ways to passively say I’m not interested in going out again, I told him. It wasn’t as bad as I feared. It wasn’t my favorite thing to do. He sounded disappointed but he was thankful for my honesty.
I almost always go out on two dates. Either I see another side of them and the interest grows, or it lessens. Carl Jung says the personalities of two people is like a chemical reaction that can transform both. There has to be an excitement to be together from both sides.
I’m still trying to get through breakup #12 from former long-term boyfriend, as in find what’s next. So I’m taking it easy on dating right now anyway.
Thank you! I think it has to do with that caveman mentality that men are better adapted for direct, visible communication as opposed to womens slight subtle hints. I deal with things alot better if a women tell me directly that she didnt feel anything on a date with me or that she would prefer not to date me again.
That way I can go home, pop in my country music, and get over it in about an hour. Afterwards a slushy makes things all better.
I know its hard for you girls to sum up the courage to do this ( sometimes), but think of this. Your saving me the pain of hearing it from your friends ,offhandly, that your not interested and spending time wondering what happened.
Comment by Nathan — June 23, 2007 @ 7:49 am