Comments on: Top Dating Ideas http://www.utahsinglesblog.com/2007/03/top-dating-ideas/ Raising the Bar on Dating in these Latter Days Sun, 20 May 2012 23:00:35 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Ronnie http://www.utahsinglesblog.com/2007/03/top-dating-ideas/comment-page-1/#comment-193 Ronnie Fri, 18 May 2007 05:31:50 +0000 http://www.utahsinglesblog.com/top-dating-ideas/#comment-193 Generally, I find that if I spend 15 minutes talking with someone I feel interested in, I can tell you if I actually want to spend more time with her. So I find that the best 1st dates tend to be not really dates at all, but moments in time that we share together talking. So possibly some definitions or ideas might help enlighten the above statement. 1. I find that beauty is very common and to want to spend more time with a woman there needs to be more going on for them then just their beauty. Unless of course shallow relationships work for you, in which case just having beauty works fine (I try to never judge what works for others). 2. Talking with a woman, or anyone else means actually having a genuine interest in knowing the other person, not just waiting for your own turn to speak. 3. As for feeling interested in a woman, that usually means that something about them initially lit up my neuro-system. As in WOW, I want to KNOW her. It's a chemical thing and it's either happens or it doesn't and if it doesn’t happen you know it in the beginning...usually...I have been wrong before though. So with these things said, we stop somewhere and it can be when we first meet and spend 15 minutes talking to see if I really want to spend more time with you. As in is there actually a connection of some sort? If there is a real connection then dating is fine. If there isn't, then other then gaining more friends, why spend any more time. Since from my limited observations most of us know inside, very quickly, if we really want to spend time with someone else. Generally, I find that if I spend 15 minutes talking with someone I feel interested in, I can tell you if I actually want to spend more time with her. So I find that the best 1st dates tend to be not really dates at all, but moments in time that we share together talking.

So possibly some definitions or ideas might help enlighten the above statement.
1. I find that beauty is very common and to want to spend more time with a woman there needs to be more going on for them then just their beauty. Unless of course shallow relationships work for you, in which case just having beauty works fine (I try to never judge what works for others).
2. Talking with a woman, or anyone else means actually having a genuine interest in knowing the other person, not just waiting for your own turn to speak.
3. As for feeling interested in a woman, that usually means that something about them initially lit up my neuro-system. As in WOW, I want to KNOW her. It’s a chemical thing and it’s either happens or it doesn’t and if it doesn’t happen you know it in the beginning…usually…I have been wrong before though.

So with these things said, we stop somewhere and it can be when we first meet and spend 15 minutes talking to see if I really want to spend more time with you. As in is there actually a connection of some sort? If there is a real connection then dating is fine. If there isn’t, then other then gaining more friends, why spend any more time. Since from my limited observations most of us know inside, very quickly, if we really want to spend time with someone else.

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