A Great First Date
I had a great first date recently. I don’t think he reads this blog. I told him about my blogging addiction but he didn’t ask for the URL. You have to be careful about blogging about your dates. I don’t do it very often. I thought about it today I realized what I loved about it. It wasn’t that he was handsome (he was) or that what we did was fun (it was) or that we had a good time talking (we did). It was the way he treated me. So much respect.
He got me right off by helping me with my coat and the way that he did [gushing omitted]. He thought of me throughout our date and it made me feel special. I know men are hesitant to do some of these things. Is it fear of not being appreciated (I can get my own door)? Coming on too strong? Or, is it that they aren’t that interested and worry that by doing that their date will think they are?
All I can say is I was so impressed. I think if I didn’t get another date, lucky is the woman who does! It makes me think of what friends I could set him up with if things didn’t pan out. I mean, this is dating at its best, something every woman should experience. This was an internet dating adventure and you never know how those will go. The phone conversations did not prepare me for how great of a person he was.
I’m being funny but in honesty this date really stood out to me. I have been treated well before, and it’s one reason I love dating, but this was another level. It’s just a tragedy that he isn’t married. Imagine the example he’ll be to his sons about how to treat women.
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omaya kennedy
Comment by omaya kennedy — April 6, 2007 @ 4:25 pm
I know men are hesitant to do some of these things. Is it fear of not being appreciated (I can get my own door)?
I find that the reason for the above is two fold…
First, as you previously hinted at the normal response seems to be anger because we are treating them “like they can’t do it themselves”. Frankly this is a huge turn off for me if being curtious is likely to upset or anger them.
Second, the other end of the scale while less often seen is just as destructive to encouraging these behaviours long term. This is when they take this as a signal to walk all over you in other aspects of the relationship.
I also find that while you can often open the door for them to get in, as you can simply gurantee they can’t open it without you by locking the door, they will rarely wait for you to get around to open the door for them in order to get out of the Car. For other doors it is often a question of who gets there first, while I try to make an effort to open most doors it doesn’t seem appropriate to “race” a date to the door in order to open it for them.
Comment by Proper — September 5, 2008 @ 4:10 am