This is the second installment from Paul about breaking off a relationship. Breaking up is difficult for most - the one breaking it off and the one who doesn’t want the relationship to end. Here’s Paul’s wise words, from experience I’m sure.

Patience - Breaking up is not an event it’s a process. Even if you can see a break up on the horizon if you’re not the person calling it quits you probably have some emotional catch-up to do. They may not be ready or understand why the break up needs to happen. You’ll need to be patient while they come to terms with the news.
I learned this when I broke up with Becky. I had come to the conclusion that we weren’t right for each other much sooner than her. When I finally mustered the courage to talk to her about it I had already spent hours analyzing and coming to terms with my feelings.

When we had the DTR (Destroy the Relationship), Becky didn’t respond. Five hours after our conversation I received a text message asking if we could talk again.

My first impulse was to tell her that I didn’t want to, but Becky and I had been friends for some time. I knew that she deserved my listening ear. However, it didn’t take just two times of us talking to break it off, it took five. Finally, after the fifth conversation Becky was at the level of understanding that I had been at our first conversation.

Becky told me later that after our final conversation she actually felt a spirit of peace confirming what I had felt all along. She contributed these feelings to the long hours we spent trying to understand what each other was feeling.

Tip: It may take some time for the person you’ve been dating to understand and accept a break up. Hopefully, you’ll have a good ending, like this example.

The next installment from Paul talks about being decisive when breaking up.